Saturday, March 12, 2011

Frustration, Stagnation, Precipitation, Evaporation...

I'm sad.

I don't know, this year is going too fast. I'm getting anxious again. We gotta stop it with the "Throw it away" bullshit. Wylie is pretty fucking capable of throwing shit away, I don't know WHAT situation he would be in where he would have to throw something away and immediately return to his desk. Like that's not really your average school assignment. Yeah, yeah, he's going to have to learn how to return to his desk, period. Can he say, "mommy" first??

I wanna tear my hair out. I work on completely different things than his therapists at school. Academic things. I mean. Come on, dude. Time for colors. And stop pretending you don't know the alphabet. Or your numbers. It drives me crazy. I'll hear him singing, "A B C D..." and as soon as I try to engage him it turns into "A E O E O Ahh E!" Whatever, dude! That's not the alphabet. And you know it, and you're just messing with me.

Okay, I'm half kidding. Am I? I mean, no, I really kinda thinks he messes with me. I'll hear "1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, yay!!" Oh really? "Yay, Wylie, let's do our numbers! 1...." "...9, 10, YAY! All done. Break!" "I'm not talking to you anymore, Wylie." "Do badee?" "That's not english." (Inaudible squeal, and then he's bouncing off.)



  1. Many hugs
    your son sounds soooo bright
    This early time is soooo hard
    And so frustrating

    The trick for me and R was to figure out his motivation and then use that - for instance I changed things subtly in my interaction - if I want to teach words I dont show him things - I tell look at what he is looking at and then teach him the word for that

  2. Thank you. I probably have a lot to learn from you- I always meant to explore Floortime when my son gained some base skills in ABA. Thanks for your kind words and he's really going through a pretty normal "terrible twos" thing right now where he feels like he doesn't have a lot of control over situations and is testing boundaries at every turn. The power struggles get miserable for the both of us. I may need to try something a little more child centered at home just to give him a little comfort at home.

  3. You're right, most kiddies love to mess with your mind at that age! But bear in mind that there *may* also be some autism issues here too. Many spectrum kids get huge anxiety about 'getting things wrong', to the point that they avoid doing things that may lead to a mistake. So Wylie can do letters and numbers if he thinks nobody's listening, but messes around (avoidance) if he thinks you're listening. It's not that you're pressurising him, it's that our kids are experts at discovering sources of stress! Good luck!